Abs light came on after i hit a curb front right tire?

Control arm, spindle or strut...

Its possible you just tripped a code. Take a OBDII scanner and scan for codes. Its possible that if you erase the codes, they wont come back and all will be well. Write down the codes in case and if it comes back look in to them. Maybe abs sensor.

Wheel speed sensor may have been damaged. Inspect and run tests at link below.
Repair Guides 4 wheel Anti lock Brake System Speed Sensor AutoZone com

the smoke came from the spilled oil leaking onto a hot surface ( manifold) No problem there. The oil light coming on was probably from the oil surging away from the oil pickup in the sump momentarily allowed the oil pump to suck air hence a drop in oil pressure. To have all that happen, the hit on the curd was substantial. so I thinking bent axle flange and broken engine mounts could explain vibrations and engine shaking

That loud humming noise you are hearing is the wheel bearing. After hitting the curb the bearing took a hit and became a little wobbly and over time the grease has seeped out and started causing the humming.So just replace the wheel bearing and anything else that might be loose or damaged like the tie rod and ball joints. if those issues are not corrected it might happen again down the road. good luck and glad to shed some light on your issue

Yep, you probably bent your lower control arm hitting that curb.

yes, you may have hit the curb, and done some damage to upper or lower arms etc.

check if your shocks are leaking. Jack up the car and with the right wheel off the ground check it for play in the bearing if it is tight and not grinding it is good. I would try another alignment shop if you dont find anything. Oh by the way dont let the wife hit any more curbs. If it is hitting curbs it could get knocked out of alignment.

As long as the vehicle has not hit a curb or been in an accident:
First, check your tire pressure. Make sure the right front brake is not dragging, and next try switching the front tires. If the pull changes to the left the tire is suspect. If that doesn't catch it - have the front end checked by an alignment shop.

on certain model when the ABS light come on the brake light come on as well. to see which sensor as set the ABS light you should have the code read with a scanner, you will be sure which sensor is defective