I don't know how to use the self timer on my canon A75...I keep forgetting and it isn't obvious..besides that there isn't anything on the whole thing of how to use the self timer for pictures you want to be in? what is up with that the whole lowdown of how to use camera doesn't say this is how to use the self timer? werid weird more than weird

Yes it does. See the "Using the Self-Timer" section beginning on page 62 of the manual: http://www.fixya.com/support/p900564-canon_powershot_a470_digital_camera/usermanual-A6A02C4-pdf

According to the manual there would be a 10 sec timer that can be set for this unit.
The manual can be downloaded under that link. I hope this does answer you questions, please do not forget to leave positive ratings and feedback.

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Press the self-timer button (marked with a one-handed clock) to cycle through the self-timer modes. Start the self-timer by pressing the shutter release button.

Full details are in the "Using the Self-timer" section of the manual (page 59 in my copy). If you need a manual, you can download one at
http://gdlp01.c-wss.com/gds/5/0900011235/01/PSS2ISCUG-EN.pdf

Press the FUNC/SET button. Use up/down to select Drive Mode (the rectangle, third item from the top). Use left/right to select the desired delay and press FUNC/SET. Start the self-timer by pressing the shutter release button.

From the menu, select Drive Mode (third item from the top) then one of the self-timer options.

On the back of the camera there is a button with a clock picture (usually with only one hand). Press this button and watch the screen. You will be given the choice of 2 or 10 seconds.(that varies with camera model). Pick one (usually 10 seconds is better) and push set. Press the shutter button and get in front of the camera...smile.

you can choose 2 or 10 seconds delay

Download user manual of Canon A75 camera by clicking Canon Support.
User manual has all instruction about this camera.

Go to this link. Open the Camera User Guide Basic, and go to page 18. It will show you how to turn on the self timer for either 2 second or 10 second delay.

Instructions are provided on page 62 in the manual. If you don't have the manual, you can view / download it here.