Got my pass word wrong and ow my ipod is saying disable and it is not sinking to a lap top?

Maybe you are not using correctly your witual keyboard?

Changing the password does not lock it. When a device is locked or disabled, it's usually due to too many incorrect password attempts.

An iOS restore / update should be able to override it. Be sure to backup the data.

Hi ernie...
If you have forgotten the code or put the wrong code in your ipod, you can unlock the Ipod by doing the following:
Connect your IPod to the primary computer you use it with (the first one Ipod synced with), and open iTunes.
When you disconnect iPod from the computer, it will no longer be locked.
If you can't unlock Ipod using either (the code or connecting it to the computer you use to manage its songs). . . you can restore your ipod to factory settings using ipod Updater.
Please note that this will erase all data on your ipod.
Afterwards, you can add your music and data back to your ipod.
If you want to change the primary computer that your Ipod is associated with, do this:
1. Restore your iPod. WARNING: The restore process cannot be undone.
All of your songs and files will be deleted.
Always make a backup of your important data.
2. Connect your ipod to the computer that you want to be the primary computer.
3. Open iTunes and synchronize.
If you can't unlock your ipod and you don't have access to the primary computer, your only option is to restore the Ipod, which will erase all music and data.
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it usually happens when you type your passcode a certain amount of times incorrectly. it should say how long its disabled if it does just wait that amount of time

You need to switch the iPhone to DFU mode and restore it from iTunes.
See this video:

WARNING: DISABLING AN IPOD TOUCH WILL MAKE IT UNUSABLE UNLESS YOU PLUG IT BACK INTO ITUNES AND RESTORE IT.
If you want to know how to disable an iPod touch:

1. Go to Settings> General > Passcode Lock >Turn Passcode Lock On > type in a passcode
2. Now, hit the button at the top of your iPod.
3. Try logging in with the WRONG passcode many times. This will disable the iPod touch.

i forgot my pass its written ipod is disabled connect to itunes when i connected it it says we cannot connet to uz its locked !

what should i do ?

restore it to factory settings using itunes

try turning it off then on again by holding the button on top 

You'll have to un recover. Hold down top (hold) buton and press the middle square at the same tim. Hold till you see recover mode.