Is ther a special spark plug socket to remove plug in a 2002 250 xr honda the one with the bike slips and is to short thanx in advance

You may have the wrong tool kit in your bike. Honda always gives you a spark plug wrench that will work with your bike in your tool kit. The tool kit may have been switched or incorrectly replaced at some point with a kit that contained the wrong wrench. You can go to a Honda dealer and order just the spark plug wrench you need off the parts microfiche probably for under $10.

If you're not able to use the factory socket, you might be able to "break it loose" with a 13/16" socket...then remove my hand. If you're not able to get your hand(s) in to loosen the plug by hand, once you break it loose, try using a piece of vaccuum hose (something flexible that will fit over the top/tip of the spark plug so that you can bend/flex the hose as need be to remove the old plug)
Good luck
Jason