I was separated from my husband when i had my third child i was nt divorced so i had to put her surname as that of my ex husband she is 16 now and she wants to change her surname

hi steve.
go to this link and have a read up about it.
http://www.deedpoll.org.uk/CanIChangeMyChildsName.html

not unless that is decided by the court or a person in a responsible position
you just cannot demand a power of attorney from any one for example the 16 year old is not of adult status so no
the 21 year old could be if you were proved mentally incompetent but that would be decided by the court
instead of asking fixya site , would it not be better to get proper legal advice from a lawyer

as divorce settlements go
general rule of thumb
depends on laws of the part of the world
you are in

property settlement separate from maintenance
50 % of your superannuation can be taken in
some parts of the world

the govt or courts will do the paperwork to
gleem the percentage direct from your income source

if the other x marries you still continue to pay child support
up to 16

after 16 depends on laws in your the part of the world

We are a fix-it website. You really need to find yourself a legal advice forum. Just be advised, the quality of the information you get is often relative to the price to get it.

Preparing your relationship for marriage

Fixya volunteers offer information in technical or historic answers usually. I see no category regarding relationship advice. I refer you to the brief paragraph link above from the well regarded Mayo clinic.

There are a few basic realities I can comment upon. First, your child with the man results in a permanent relationship through the child. That ideally is in cooperative support for the child at minimum. Secondly, neither marriage nor the lack of it created or prevented your current relationship. Nor has such motivated your partner to begin divorce proceedings and to subsequently propose marriage. Indeed, only you know if paternity has been formally established where your partner is obligated to support the child. That of course is what the child is entitled to irrespective of your relationship with your partner. Thirdly, you offer no clue as to why your partner has not divorced in seven years. The delay suggests he has found no reason to get divorced and several reasons to not get re-married. And those reasons has not grown fewer in seven years. I would assume he would consider himself disadvantaged if the situation changes. So, neither you nor he have chosen to part ways as long as the current situation does not change. You are becoming aware of the difference between marriage and what you currently have. It is at this point unclear what each of you expect of the other. What the two of you decide is between the two of you. There is, however, no indication of intention to marry by your partner at this point.

1st. when u are talking to him, go to options, then click record> (verizon phone only)

You will start here at this link. I suspect the mother will have to have custody of the child to request the removal. Try it, it may resolve the issue for her...

http://www.facebook.com/help/#!/help/contact.php?show_form=coppa