Says I am to young to play online Madden 11. I am 40 years old!

You have a pre-owned system that was banned from online play.

First make sure that your PS3 connects with your acces point eather wireless or with wire, te second step is configurate your PS3 for wire connection or wireless connection.
These settings are found under the network settings.
Also see the manual to see how you need to configurate the PS3 in detail.

Allso make sure when the PS3 is connected corectly to the acces point that the firewall of the acces point is not interfearing the connection.

This game is rated for everyone. There is no age restiction.

go to my Xbox, family settings, and change the Xbox live access settings, or just change console safety to off.

At 9 years old he's too young. Granted you could work around that by signing him up under your name, but then your subjecting him to the dangers of the online world were everyone doesn't play fair. BE VERY CAUTIOUS.

Unfortunately you have to be over 16 to play EA games online. Only way to fix this would be set up a new Xbox profile with an older age

Have you checked all the settings in your router? wait...people pc is dial-up right?  I didn't think dialup will work.

maybe the other person has blocked your user name by accident.

If it says ea servers not available that means the servers are down for maintenance, this is not unusual for video game servers, happens once or twice a month....

Also keep in mind playstation servers and xbox server are totally different.

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