Where can i obtain a wiring diagram

A one phase 3 wire system has a center tap. Two hots and a neutral. Typical 120/240 volts.
A three phase 4 wire system has Three hots in a Y or Delta. The Y system has three hots and the neutral comes from the center of the Y, this is the neutral and grounded conductor, 120 volts from hot to ground and 208 volts hot to hot. In a 3 phase system the voltage is not doubled hot to hot as in a single phase system because the hots are 120 degrees phased from each other and the square root of 3 is the factor, multiply the 120 volts by 1.73 to get 208 volts hot to hot. Multiply 208 by the reciprocal of 1.73 and get 120 volts. Your exact application is not given so it is not known. A delta system is a triangle and the angle of each triangle is a hot wire, one angle would be grounded or the center tap of one of the sides of the triangle. Y is the configuration of the windings of the alternator or transformer and Delta is the configuration as a triangle of the windings of the alternator or transformer where the power supply is.

With a three phase home service, you can only connect two hots from your single phase generator, and the neutral. One of the house's hot does not get connected and any three phase loads in the house should be switched off and kept from energyzing or a circuit breaker or fuse serving that 3 phase load may trip.
Only one power supply can be connected at a time. The power company power must not be connected at all while using an alternate power supply unless your power supply has means to synchronize the alternating cycle.

It is adviced that the loads be kept within 10% of their rated voltage, especially motors.