For pairing the Xbox 360 controller make sure you hit the pairing button on the wireless controller and Xbox 360 unit together, there's a little circular button under the memory card 2 slot, press it (while xbox is on)
now press the one on the controller (next to lb) and it should connect.
here's a diagram representation of pairing process for further help
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