How do i adjust the head lights in or out on a 2004 dodge stratus---or can i?

If by in or out you mean make the beam pattern move closer or farther away from the vehicle, then yes you can. There are adjustment screws (usually 2) on each headlamp assembly. One raises and lowers the headlamp. This will move the beam closer to (down) or further from (up) the vehicle. The other will adjust the beam from left to right. The screw at the top (or bottom) is for the vertical and the screw on the side is for horizontal. The easiest way to adjust the headlamps correctly is to, at night, go to a location where you can park about 50 feet away from a blank wall. Turn on the low beam headlamps. In order to "properly" adjust the lamps, the left side headlamp's main beam should cast is "ring" on the wall at about the centerline of the car (left-to-right adjustment), with the bottom of the beam just reaching the ground (vertical adjustment). The right side headlamp should be adjusted to shine along the right edge of the vehicle (where the white edge line would be) at the 50 foot mark (left-to-right) and the height should be the same as the left headlamp - beam just touching the ground. Many people make the mistake of pointing them straight down the road. This causes "overspray" into the oncoming lanes and blinds oncoming motorists. I'm sure you've experienced the annoyance of someone coming toward you with their lights right in your eyes. That is caused by misadjustment. If you get the low means right, the high beams will work well for approximately 200-300 feet down the road, which, unless you are night racing, is more than enough distance to see well to drive.